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Veneeta

Major: Business and Studio Art with a Film minor
Hometown: Twin Cities
Favorite Writer: Khaled Hosseini!
Favorite sex scene from a movie/TV/book: I think my favorite is the scene from Season 8 of Grey's Anatomy where April and Jackson just beat up a really mean guy and are celebrating and feeling on top of the world.
Hidden Talent: Fishing!

Posts By: Veneeta Danhoui

Black Women Do Not Have to Be Strong All The Time

This past week on How To Get Away with Murder (04×06), Annalise Keating (Viola Davis) delivered another jaw-dropping monologue (2:30-3:06), debunking the “strong, independent, black woman” trope commonly seen in many books and movies–the very same trope that is often used and co-opted by non-black people as a joke. I have never seen another television show do this and I was completely floored. In this scene, Annalise is having another meeting with her therapist where she seems to be better at his job than he is. She interrupts him as he tries to use textbook tactics to get her to understand the depth of her own pain. “No, STOP. I’m opening up like you want me to and you keep steering me someplace… to get me to feel something, that… Read more »

Carry Pads In Public

When we were younger, my sister and I would call menstruation, “The Thing.”  In a similar way, society seems to have a huge problem addressing ‘taboo’ topics for what they are. And in this case, I’m talking periods. Although not all those who have periods are women, going to a women’s college has given me a unique privilege of noticing how ashamed and secretive many people are about their periods. While some people embrace them and joke about becoming blood sisters with friends or throw moon parties for their sisters, others hide their menstrual pads in shame and make a bolt for the nearest self-check-out line on heavy flow days. I truly cannot remember how many people have told me the age old story of their male teachers asking why… Read more »

Racial Dating Preferences Are Anti-Black

Among my friends and on social media, I have noticed a common phenomenon around blackness in dating: people are masking their blatant anti-blackness with the common rhetoric that “they’re just not my type.” Dating apps like Tinder and OkCupid have definitely made it easier for white people to see black faces and immediately swipe left.  However, I have also seen white friends and friends of color alike be more open to dating other nonblack races. It seems that what many non-black people aren’t wanting to admit to themselves are that these cheap claims of having a “preference” is just a mask for the fact that, inherently, you think blackness is unattractive. Whether it’s because of our negro noses or afros, I am beginning to realize that so many of my… Read more »

Kylie Jenner Might Be Bringing A Black Child Into This World and I Have Questions

An influx of ‘Pregnant Kylie’ photos surfaced on the internet after TMZ reported that Kylie Jenner was five months pregnant. The social discourse surrounding the possibility of this new baby has arguably received more attention than the plethora of natural disasters that have devastated so many people. Perhaps the most recent Kardashian media frenzy is just more proof of what the media really holds dear. But Kylie’s pregnancy begs a much greater, very serious question that sometimes gets swept under the rug when a new Kardashian is made, or when anyone famous announces their pregnancy. Are black babies slowly becoming commodified for likes and as an excuse for cultural appropriation and racial ignorance? I can’t help but feel sheer and utter terror at the fact that this family of culture vultures… Read more »

Television Has Made Lying about Your Sex Life Normal

Why has lying about your sexual health history become a popular media trope in film and television? We also see this in social media with celebrities like Usher, who purposely withheld the fact that he had genital herpes from his partners and thereby infected them, and now denies it. So much of our media influences how we see the world. Even if we don’t always realize it, when we see television scenes where one character withholds their sexual health information from another, the obvious reaction is to disagree with what is happening.  But what is simultaneously operating underneath our apparent disapproval is the normalization and desensitization of dishonesty surrounding sexual health. It also allows the viewer to stigmatize carriers as being intrinsically careless, deceptive and dishonest. It operates as a cunning… Read more »

Domestic Violence Is a Reproductive Justice Issue

When my 24-year-old cousin got married this past year, my mom imparted onto her what she believes to be the key to an everlasting marriage. She said, “No matter what happens, just keep your mouth shut. Don’t say anything, don’t do anything; just accept everything and keep your mouth shut and make sure you do everything he says.” When I found out she said this, it occurred to me how deeply domestic violence had become woven into the fabric of not only her life, but also the lives of her children. It dawned on me that over the course of my childhood, my sister and I had publicly witnessed almost every woman in our family experience some kind of casual emotional abuse at the hand of their husbands. Somehow, just… Read more »